Happy Mother’s Day to all the mamas out there! Today I celebrated my second Mother’s Day, and I woke up this morning feeling so grateful – grateful that God gave me the opportunity to be a mom, grateful for my mom, my mother-in-law, my grandma, all of the mamas in my life… the list goes on and on. As I sit here tonight reflecting on the past 18 months as a mommy; I’m realizing some of the things I never prepared myself for before I became a mom.
All of the things your mom told you about being a mom… she’s right
This “Dear Mom, I Get It Now” shirt is so accurate. Growing up, I remember my mom told me all kinds of things about being a parent: “just wait until you’re a mom,” “you’ll understand one day,” and so many things like that. I ignored them for the most part because I thought she didn’t know what she was talking about. However, when I became a mom; I realized everything she said was right.
There’s never going to be enough coffee
Before I became a mom, I never drank coffee – I hated the taste of it. But after having my Sweet Caroline, I thought I was supposed to drink coffee because that’s what moms do. I discovered the only way I could tolerate coffee was with tons of flavored creamer, so I tried a millions creamers until I found a few I loved. And now, low and behold, I am a coffee drinker. Every single morning. Sometimes I’ll even have two cups, and I feel like I can’t survive without it. On your extra-tired mornings though, you’re going to feel like no amount of coffee can wake you up – trust me, I’ve been there, and I’ve yet to find the number of cups of coffee I need to wake up on my most tired days. Leading me to my next point…
You can survive on way less sleep than you think
Even when you feel like there’s never enough coffee to drink in your house or you just can’t wake up… you can. As moms, that’s what we do… we survive on little to no sleep (especially in the beginning) and somehow we make it! When you have a newborn, everyone says to “sleep when the baby sleeps,” but that seems to be the only time to get the house half-way in order. The mess will still be there later… take a nap, mama.
Everyone has an opinion
I’m sure you knew this already, but no one ever prepared me for all of the opinions others would have once I had my baby. What worked for someone else won’t necessarily work for you, but they’re going to tell you all about it anyways. Not everyone is judging you or being rude like you’re going to think, they’re genuinely trying to help. So, even if you don’t take their advice or don’t agree with their opinion, just smile and tell them thank you.
You will break when you least expect it
At some point, the stress of all things motherhood will come roaring in like a tornado, and you’ll break. You’ll realize you’ve had enough. It’s totally normal and happens to us all. It will happen when you least expect it, and you won’t be prepared. You’ll get angry and turn into a mad mom. Take a deep breath and some quiet time for yourself, and remember “this too shall pass.”
You never knew you could love this much
The love you have for your child is amazing and different than any other love you’ll ever feel. You’ll love your child in a totally different way than you love your husband, your parents, or your family and friends… it’s a special kind of love that I can’t explain. But if you have kids, you know exactly what I’m talking about. My daughter just recently learned to give tight hugs, and it’s the greatest thing ever. My heart overflows with love when she wraps her little arms around me and squeezes my neck.
You’re going to cry… A LOT
When your baby is placed in your arms for the first time, when you’ve had no sleep and the baby is awake again, when your baby gets hurt, when you feel overwhelmed with all of the “house chores” and you still have to be a mom, when someone says something mean about how you parent… you’re going to cry over all of these things. There will be sad tears, tired tears, happy tears, and tears that you aren’t sure why they’re happening. There will be times when you’re holding your child and just start crying because you love them so much – if you don’t have babies and think I’m crazy, just wait; it’ll happen to you.
When you have a child, your life is never the same, but in the best way possible! Being a mom is amazing and I am so blessed. Motherhood is a challenge that comes with all kinds of sacrifices and changes, but it’s all so incredibly worth it!